In addition to physiological stressors, too much stress over time adversely affects our relationships in and outside of the workplace. At the point of overwhelm, we can no longer regulate our emotional response system in a proactive, healthy way. Our brain switches over to survival mode and begins scanning situations to look for the worst possible outcome, putting us into ‘negative’ mode. This results in us complaining more, becoming hyper-focused on the problem, and frankly, spending our energy in the wrong places. We develop a constant sense of defeat, which leaves us feeling hopeless in situations. Consequently, we end up pushing people away which contradicts what we really need, which is connection and support from others. Been there, you say? Me too.
At the time we recognize this is all happening, it’s typically too late for an easy switch to get us back on the right track. That bad habit has been formed. The relationship has been sabotaged. At this point, not only do we have a lot of repair to do, it takes an average of 64 consecutive times of doing something the right way to form a new habit. Now we can see why most people do not succeed in meeting their New Year’s resolutions. Without accountability, chances are, we’ll fall into the 92% of people who fail to reach their goals.